it's not personal

Don't take anything personally. This is the second agreement that Miguel Ruiz teaches us.  This is a crucial lesson to help you free yourself. It is also difficult. Miguel speaks about how taking things personally causes a poison to run through us. This poisons our soul, our mind, and our well-being. Humans are selfish, and therefore we think that everything is about me. By thinking this, we are letting the poison run our lives. This poison can be destroyed by not taking things personally. The lesson is that people do and say things because of themselves. Perhaps they are feeling poorly about their life and to help them feel better they share some negative words with you. This may make them feel better, but if we let that poison in, then we start to questions ourselves, our thoughts, our person, and our spirit.  This can lead to conflicts within ourselves and with others.

By not taking things personally, we are able to trust ourselves and live our dream of love and joy. It takes the fear out being you and living your life.  This is because you don't allow yourself to be hurt by others. It doesn't mean that you don't care about others or things in life. It just means that you believe in yourself, trust in yourself, and are able to live as yourself.

I have found this to be quite helpful in my interactions with my son. While he is still quite young, he can say very hurtful things or act out in very hurtful ways. By reminding myself of the second agreement, I am able to listen to him and interact with him knowing that he is hurting for some reason - maybe he did not get the toy he wanted or he has to go to bed. His actions and words are just his expression of anger or disappointment. His words of how mean I am or that he hates me are no longer taken personally by me. I know that he loves me, and that I am a good mom. I know that soon he will return to his more joyful state and he knows that I love him.

This agreement has helped me to learn to look at people and interactions differently. I am able to process that it is not me - most of the time :) - and I am able to work through difficult situations a little easier. It has done wonders for my stress level.

Ready to feel better and see the world from a different perspective? Try living this second agreement and let me know how it feels.

impeccable word

The Four Agreements......Be impeccable with your word. This is the first agreement that Miguel Ruiz teaches us about. He writes about how this is saying what you mean. To be aware that your word is so powerful that you can create amazing things or destroy things in the blink of an eye. We should live our lives in truth and share our words with others to create, learn, teach, inspire and be true to ourselves and everyone we come in contact with. This helps create love in the world not hate. Hate can be created if our words are used for evil. In my space, it is for love. There will not be any hurtful, destructive words shared. We are not able to be free to heal if we are not impeccable with our word.

What does this mean to me? If am able to be impeccable with my word, it gives me the power to be true and enjoy life. It offers me the opportunity to free myself of negativity and offers me freedom. Freedom to run with my dreams and leave fear behind. By leaving fear behind, I am able to transform myself and live the life I want to live.

As I struggle with my fear of food and letting that fear grip me so tightly that I cannot take a step outside of the box fear has built for me, the possibility of something like speaking with integrity being able to give me the power to live my life in a joyous and loving manner is awe inspiring. I turn my impeccable word towards myself and say that the truth is that food will heal me.

The truth is that there are going to be ups and downs in finding out what food my body sees as harmful and as healthy.

This truth to myself will bring me comfort and the power to take a step outside the box of fear. It may be a small step or two, but it is still a step towards healing and living my life the way I dream of living it.

My journey will be long, and I am ok with that because I know that the first step, the small step starts with my impeccable word and can only direct me in the right direction to healing, love and joy.

Can you make this agreement? Are you ready to live your dream and take the first step with your impeccable word? Please share your thoughts.

The Four Agreements

I love to read and learn. I read on every topic that I am interested in finding an answer to. As I have been on this journey, I have tried many things and read even more to try and learn how to heal myself. I just read The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. This book is life changing for me, and I want to share its wonderful power with you.

If you have read this book before, I encourage you to read it again. If you have not read it, please take the time to. I read it in a couple of hours while sitting out on my deck in the beautiful sun.

The premise is that there are four agreements that people should live by and by living these, you will find yourself living a happy and fulfilled life. Can a book really inspire that much of a life changing transformation in someone? I think so. I took the time to really ponder his words and to understand how those words are reflected in my life and how I can live by them. It was amazing.

I have been on this long journey and the words that he shares really spoke to me. These words have made me choose to fight this fear inside of me and live my authentic self. I am ready to stand up to my fear and find my path to happiness.

Over the next few weeks I will share with you an agreement and my thoughts. I want to share with you what is transforming inside of me and where I end up. I hope that you too will take the time to read this book, think about the agreements and make the choice to live by them. I invite you to share your thoughts with me and the other readers. Together, we will be set free.

Happy reading!

be free to heal: raindrops are melting me......

be free to heal: raindrops are melting me......: Join me in the journey to heal your inner self..... Imagine yourself lying on a massage table, lighting is dim, there is a glow of sof...

raindrops are melting me......

Join me in the journey to heal your inner self.....

Imagine yourself lying on a massage table, lighting is dim, there is a glow of soft light and the sound of soothing spa music. Your journey begins with the inhalation of wonderful smelling oils and you can feel the energy wrapping itself around you. Slow, deep breath in and exhale out.  Do this a few times. Let yourself go with each breath. Feel the soothing hands massage your neck and shoulders and inhale the wonderful oils. Let your mind go. 

As the tension in your neck and shoulders melt away, next are your feet. Oils are chosen especially for you and applied to the hands of your therapist. Touch is constant while applying and massaging. You will find a different technique is used to apply the oils and work them into your skin. Again, you will feel energy start vibrating through your body from your toes on up. 

When the feet are done, you will flip over and the oils are applied and massaged into your back. There is massage, feathering and raindrops on your back. I am going to step aside for a moment and share an experience I had. Now, I am one who enjoys a good massage and feels relaxed while getting one and afterwards. With the Raindrop Technique, I am taken to a whole new level of relaxation and inner healing. I am not able to form a thought. My mind is blank. I also have fallen asleep which is not something I have ever done in a massage.

So while lying on your tummy, you will feel drops of oil dripping onto your back and the massage technique is heaven. Once you're completely relaxed, you turn onto your back again and the technique winds down with neck, shoulders, head. You can feel the energy just pulsating through you. I feel like I am floating and in a state of pure calmness like I have never experienced before.

I am then left to rest and come back to reality. When I feel ready, I can redress and head out of the magical room. This is always hard, and I tend to do this faster than I probably should, but I cannot stay because I know I would never want to leave.

The first time I had this done, I was told that she could tell I carried my stress in my neck and between my shoulders blades without ever touching me. After the session, the only area that gave me issue was between my shoulder blades. It itched SO bad. Come to find out that is your body detoxing itself and it is good.  

I could write on the feelings and sensations and how much I love this for days. I encourage everyone to try it. Each person will experience something different depending on your needs, issues and the oils used. I don't know why I am always amazed at how healing natural products can be, but I still am.

As I write this, I want to thank my wonderful therapist Reba. She has opened my eyes to many wonderful things, Raindrop is so amazing and so is she. Thank you :)