assumptions - can we live without them?

Don't make assumptions. You know what happens when you assume :) Miguel Ruiz shares with us his third agreement - Don't make assumptions. Miguel teaches us that if we only live by one agreement, this should be it. This agreement can transform your life. If we are able to not make assumptions, then our communication with others will vastly improve. If we have better communication, we will have less drama, sadness and misunderstandings. Wouldn't that be nice? With this agreement, we seek clarity. If someone is talking to us and we don't understand, we should not make an assumption of what they are saying. We need to ask questions until we are sure of the meaning. Who has time for that in this busy society? Everyone needs to make time. Think of the time we spend on negative thoughts and actions. These could be avoided by simply clarifying the situation.

I would like to share with you an excerpt from his book. I will paraphrase and no ill intentions of plagiarism are present. The words he wrote just speak to me and I want to share them with you. We live in a society where we fear what others think of us. We are are worried about fitting in instead of being our authentic self. We make assumptions that everyone sees life the way we do. Others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way we judge and abuse the way we abuse.... We blame ourselves. So before anyone has a chance to reject us, we reject ourselves. By rejecting ourselves and assuming stuff about ourselves (maybe someone said you look fat or made a hurtful statement and then we believed these words), we cause a lot of inner conflict. We question our self and start to believe what other say about us good or bad. Instead of assuming that we know it all for everyone else and believing what others say about us, we need to stand up for ourselves, turn off the outside noise, and find our true self. We need to believe in our self. To trust our self.

By giving, sharing, loving and being true, we open our world up to living our dream and feeling joy and happiness. How wonderful would each day be if everyone did this for themselves? We would be on a road to freedom.

As I continue to work towards healing and living my life as me, I have to look at the assumptions I am making. I assume that food with hurt me. I assume that others will think I am weird. I assume that people will laugh at me. I assume that others will not understand. This is a short list of my assumptions. By recognizing these for what they are - assumptions- I can start to work on the truth and believing the truth. Food will heal me. Food will make me healthy. I am not weird and who cares if they think I am. If people laugh at me, I will join in so that we are laughing together and find the humor because that can help heal me too. If I am impeccable with my word and share the truth with others, they will understand. After all, who really wants to ass*u*me? Not me. I just want to be free.

What assumptions are you making?